The Gorry Details of Lilly's birth May 2nd 2009

It's hard to get a moment to sit down and type when you have a newborn and a 5 year old!!
Lilly Anne Patricia was born May 2nd 2009 at 2:30 a.m. and here are the gorry details...
I wanted this baby out bad, I was swollen, tired, Braxton hick's contractions constantly, couldn't breathe, and going to the bathroom every 5 minutes, no exageration!! I called my midwife Cory and told her that I was soo frustrated that I was willing to do anything to get this baby out. My appointment one week earlier found me at 4cm dialated and with a cervix of mush or very favorable as they say. A membrane sweep and instructions to have sex, walk and eat lots of spicy foods, we'll probably see you in the next 48 hours. Ya right!
So here I am June 30th still no baby, Cory tells me to come in tomorrow, I can rupture your membrane, but you will be commited to labour either vaginally or c-section. As much as I wanted to attempt a VBAC, I wasn't sure I could last another hour being pregnant. So I call Chris at work and tell him Cory will break my water tomorrow, tell your boss. I call Mom at work and tell her the plan, she schedules the day off and decides she'll just come with me incase I go quick. I call Dad and tell him the plan, be ready to come to Brockville tomorrow the midwife will break my water! I'm soo excited and just loving this plan.
Dusta has the Friday off and offers to take Braxton for the day, when I deliver she'll bring him out if it's not too late.
May 1st 9:30 a.m. We drive into Perth to meet with Dusta and Mom. We drop Braxton off with Dusta at the Timmy's and with Mom following behind we head to Brockville. My appointment is at 11:00 a.m.

10:30 a.m. We're early and Cory hasn't arrived a the office yet. We head across the street to the restaurant. I have to pee! Chris and Mom both order a coffee, I order a choc. milk. We sit and talk about the labour and what's going to happen. Almost 11a.m. I have to pee again. we cross the street to the midwives office

11:00 a.m. Cory talks in circles and when it comes down to it, she can't legally break my water, because I'm going to the hospital there is a chance that the nurses and doctors may figure it out that my water was broken on purpose and it can have reprocussions for Cory as a midwife. So she does a very rough membrane sweep, trying desperately hard to accidently break my membrane. She tells me about this great concoction that Tatiana another midwife has that is known to bring on labour if your ready. I decide I'll wait to try it.

11:30 a.m. I start cramping. Cory tells me to go for lunch eat something spicy and then take a walk around the mall. Call me if your thinking of going home and nothing happens.
Mom, Chris and I head to Santa Fe for something Spicy. I order the medium wings and eat almost every last one! Still cramping but not consistently.

12:30 Dusta calls and tells us that Dad is at the hospital and wants to know where I am. So we go to the hospital and meet with Dad. In the mean time Cory calls and says meet me at the hospital there is a O.B. that has agreed to see you and will break your water for you.

1:00p.m. I meet with Dr. Nichols and Cory is there as well. They hook me up to the monitors to measure the contractions and the baby's heartbeat. I'm contracting but not consistently enough. Dr. Nichols examins me and says that I'm 5 cm dilated and she thinks that I will go into labour on my own any day, I just need to be patient. I'm only 41 weeks pregnant and they don't induce until 42 weeks. She won't break my water for me.
I want this baby out soo badly that I say if I don't go into labour today then I want a c-section tomorrow.

3:00p.m. So the plan is if I don't go into labour on my own they will do a section May 2nd. I'm told not to eat anything after midnight just in case. Mom, Dad, Chris and I decide it's best for me to just stay in Brockville for the night. Dad rents us a room at the Comfort Inn. We all go for dinner at East Side Mario's.

6:00 p.m. Dad has gone home, we're to call if I go into labour and he'll come back. An almost 2 hour drive back. We go over to the mall and I try to keep walking. But by this time I'm soo exhausted I just want to sleep. I try to look at the baby stuff but I'm just too tired. My contractions have stopped completely. That's it I say, I want the concoction. Sitting at the front doors at Sears I call Cory and get the recipe for the "concoction".

7:30 p.m. We race around Brockville getting the ingredients for the concoction
Ingredients:
Apricot juice
Champagne
Crushed ALmonds
Castor Oil
I also buy some Red raspberry leaf tea, go big or go home!!

8:30 p.m. We've made up the concoction and I've drank two cups of Tea
The concoction is horrid tasting I gag as I try and drink it. Mom and Chris think it's hillarious to watch me try and choke this stuff down.
We get ready for bed, I'm exhausted!!

9:30 pm My first contractions start at about 10 minutes apart
I lay in bed managing. I tell Mom and Chris I think I'm having contractions. Okay they say, let us know if they are consistent. I try to sleep but can't, so I just lay awake timing them.

12:30 a.m.. The contractions are getting stronger and just coming randomly. I get up and go to the washroom and say," I think it's time to go." Mom and Chris turn on the lights and start to get out of bed when suddenly I'm hunched over with the most intense pain ever!
Mom says call the midwife to Chris. Chris picks up the phone and then drops it and runs to the bathroom. Mom looks up and says, What is he doing? So she calls Cory. By this time my contraction has gone and I talk to Cory, I'm describing the pain and I get another contraction. Cory tells us to go to the hospital. My contraction stops so I tell Mom to call Cory back, I'm still not sure that I'm in labour. Cory says go to the hospital NOW!! So we pack all of our stuff up, Chris thinks it important that while I'm in labour that he make sure we leave the motel room clean! What the fuck??!!! Mom and I are waiting in the van and I'm yelling what the hell are you doing lets go!!

1:00a.m. Thank God we stayed in Brockville I say! The drive is unbearable sitting is very uncomfortable I just want to stand. The traffic lights are too long and I tell Chris, just go, run it!!
We get to the hospital and I'm in active labour, the nurse checks me and I'm 7 cm dilated. They get me a room right away. I change into a gown and they get me in the bed and start monitoring my contractions. They are coming hard and fast and I'm in alot of pain.

1:15 a.m. The nurse is trying to put an IV in hand on one side of me and Cory is trying to show me how to use the gas on the other side. The nurse accidently pokes me with the needle and I yell Ouch, I'm bleeding and she appologizes and tells Cory, one thing at a time. The nurse is still strugling to get my IV in and it's hurting alot. I want to punch her in face for her stupidity!!

1:30 a.m The nurses are asking me 101 questions about medication etc. I'm still strapped on my back in bed and I want out of it like crazy! One of the nurses says, your a VBAC you can't get out of the bed. My Mom says, she was told she could still get out of the bed. Not with a VBAC the nurse argues! I'm not staying in this bed, Mom get Cory I say. Cory comes back in the room and helps me get out of bed. She bring me a birthing ball. I try sitting on it but it feels better to just stand at the side of the bed. I try the gas but just can't get the hang of it so I throw it across the bed. Stupid shit I think!

2:00 a.m I'm in so much pain, I can honestly say that I've never experienced this kind of pain before in my life! I can't even begin to describe it. The contractions are coming fast and there is maybe 10 seconds between each one. I can't deal with the pain and it feels better to just scream!
With every contraction I scream and at the same time I feel like pushing. Heather is the midwife in training and she is rubbing my back and urging me to breathe through the contractions. "I can't I cry!" I continue screaming this time into the pillow on the bed it just feels better to scream. In between a contraction I beg for someone to help me, help me please I beg. A nurse offers me a narcotic to take the edge off. I say yes, and scream through the next contraction. This time I feel warm fluid running down my legs. How embarrasing I think . I just peed with all this pushing.

2:24 a.m. I hear Cory yell the time and broken membrane. Heather tells me my water broke.
Now the room is in a frenzy. Get in the bed jodi, Cory says. I can't as I start pushing. Yes you can she says and pushes me into the bed. I scurry to get on my back so that I can continue to push. I feel a hot burning sensation between my legs and immediately put my hand over top of my vagina. I don't want to tear i say to Dr. Nichols and Heather. Dr. Nicholson looks at me and says," It's too late for that Jodi, you need to get this baby out now"

2:30 a.m.That's all I needed to hear and I pushed, first push came her head second push the rest of her body. And thats that she's out! Who wants to cut the cord Cory asked. Chris? Chris didn't want anything to do with that. I looked for Mom and said Mom you do it! And she did! The contractions immediately subside as they begin working on her.

2:40 a.m. As Cory and the nurses work on our gorgeous baby girl, whom I have not seen yet. Dr.Nicholson and Heather are tending to my nether region. I've torn, I ask how bad and Heather say's it's not bad, it's just in an awkward spot. I suck on the gas and have figured out how it works now!! ha ha As they stitch me up I can still feel every tug of the thread and I can't manage the pain I just want it over with.

3:00 a.m. They are still not done stitching me. Dr. Nicholson is having a hard time seeing and wants to take me to the Operating Room. They put me under general anesthesia so I don't know what went on during this process. I'm just glad I was out.

6:00 a.m. I'm brought back to my room where Mom, Dad and Chris are all waiting with our baby girl Lilly Anee Patricia. I find out her weight and I get to hold her. The ordeal is somewhat over yet in another way only beginning.

Almost Time

A new week begun, and there is snow on the ground today! Ewww!! What ever happened to spring? April showers bring May flowers, not April SNOW!! grr.

Chris has started working at Canadian tire in the garage Monday to Friday 8-5. His availability at the grocery store has changed to be available two nights of the week. Monday night and Friday night. This week he just works Friday night. So he has been home more often.

So I am officially in my 9th month of pregnancy, who ever said that pregnancy is only 9 months has clearly never been pregnant! Your actually pregnant for 10 months! Especially if your like me and carry for the full 40 weeks! I did with Braxton so I assume I will with this baby as well.
I'm 37 weeks, I have 18 days left if I go into labour on my actual due date. But the tech said anytime between the 25th and the 29th! My midwife gave me a whole bunch of suggestions on how to go induce labour naturally. When I told Chris he wasn't too keen on any of the suggestions even though one of them was to have sex.
So your probably wondering WHY? on earth would he NOT want to help out?? Perfect explanation is that the baby's room isn't done, Braxton's room isn't done. Braxton is still sleeping on the floor in our bedroom.
This weekend is Easter weekend, he has Friday off, works Friday night then has Saturday and Sunday off. He had better be working on that baby's room, get it finished so that he can start working on poor Braxton's room. There is only one more weekend until the baby is due! As you can imagine things are a lot tense between the two of us because of this! Chris has one speed and it's neutral~~~~! If the rooms are not done when the baby comes I will be living at my Mom's until they are, I am not having a newborn around drywall dust and paint fumes!! I wish he could understand this.
Okay I'm done fuming at my husband via my blog...for now...!

So Easter Weekend, aside from the Easter bunny making his usual yearly appearance and crapping chocolate eggs all over the place, we will be going to my Mom's for Easter dinner Sunday. Chris? Not sure, if the rooms aren't close to being done he can stay home and work, Ha! If only if I could trust that he would be home alone and work and not sit his ass down in front of the telvision and watch CSI all day!! "okay guess I wasn't done fuming "

My last appointment with the O.B. said that my cervix was soft and favorable, which basically means that I could go into labour anytime in the next 3 weeks!! LOL
Baby is head down and measuring exactly 36cm last exam. Will see the midwife this Thursday, she will be coming to our house, just so she knows where we live. : -)

that's all for now, have a great week and happy Easter.

The End of March

Yeah!!! Chris will be starting at Canadian Tire here in Smiths Falls April 1st 40 hours a week.
He will still keep a few shifts at the Independent working nights and had to give up his job working for Renwicks. But the pay is better and he will be doing what he went to school for.

I'm now 35 1/2 weeks pregnant. I carried Braxton for 40 weeks so chances are I will carry this one for 40 weeks as well.
Baby due date is April 25th, but I would really like her to be born on April 26th as that was my Granny's birthday on my mom's side and we are naming her after my Granny.
We'll see what happens.
On the other hand I would really like to go early too. Last ultrasound said the estimated due date didn't correspond with our due date. They said April 13th, but Braxton's due date kept changing as he got bigger as well. So I'm not expecting to go early. I have another apointment with the obstetrician that will be overseeing my labour and delivery at the Brockville hospital. I have to sign some consent forms and he needs to take a look at my operative report from my C-section with Braxton. VBAC (Vaginal Birth After C-section) has some risks but the midwives and hopefuly the O.B. agree that I am a good candidate. I have also been seeing a chiropractor since the beginning of my pregnancy and I'm hoping that helps me out a bit as well, with my pelvis not being locked and moving easier. Braxton engaged but just couldn't get out after 3 hours of pushing.

One thing that i'm not looking forward to with this labour is that I will not at anytime be able to have an epidural. If I do, It increases my risks of a repeat c-section and I will be monitor with the fetal monitor at all times incase of uterine rupture which could kill me and the baby.
So... all that being said, I'm going to be begging for GAS!!!lol



We are just putting the finishing touches on the baby's room. We got the wall up and finished, painted, and put up a cute little girly wallpaper border. Chris has to finish putting trim around the room and then we are also going to put some crown moulding around the ceiling.
Braxton's room is still in limbo. The wall has been mudded, but still needs another sanding and then primer and paint. It is also missing a door, so there is just a hole in the wall for a door and the electrical needs to be cut in. Braxton is sleeping on a couch cushion in our bedroom right now.
This weekend we will be going out to my Dad's house and pulling most of the baby stuff out of storage, and then putting together the crib, all the while hopefully putting more finishing touches on the room and getting Braxton's room closer to being finished. I don't do well with renovations!

It's BEEN TOO long!

Wow!! It's been soo long since I've updated my blog that I almost forget how to do it.

So we are expecting our new addition to the family anywhere between April 25th and May 7th.
I'm hoping sooner than later. Our ultrasound on Dec 10th confirmed my suspicions of having a girl!! I'm very excited and happy! I think I've always wanted to be a Mom but to have a baby girl of my own has been almost a dream I thought would never come true.

Braxton is in school every other day at Lombardy Public School, he's "A group" and he goes Monday, Wednesday and Alternate Fridays! We were able to get him assistance in the classroom which he truly needed. His EA teacher's name is Mich and his classroom teacher is Mrs. James. He still has speech with Leslie about once a month.
He has made a great little friend in a girl his age named Meredith! She is absolutely adorable and so sweet with Braxton, she is helping him interact with the other children in his class and also helps him to communicate with them. His speech is still slow and he speaks jibberish, but not as often and we are able to understand him about 80% of the time now.
We started off the school year driving him to school and then picking him up. In January we started sending him home on the school bus!! He loves the bus! I think it was harder for me to put him on it than it was for him to go on it.

Finances are rediculously tight since Chris lost his job the end of January. He is working part time at the grocery store nights stocking shelves until he can find something automotive to do. I was having some issues with my scheduling at work and then before Christmas I was told that I have placenta praevia so I quit my job and am patiently waiting for either EI to kick in or Maternity leave.

All in all life has it's ways of working out and I know this, but just need to remind myself of it fairly often.

All my love